Sensitive Conversations: Acceptance

20227255_1752720774745541_868886516_nI was chatting with a new friend who is on a journey similar to mine.  We talked about how the people in our lives reacted to us telling them about our gifts.  I know, right?  As if embracing your spiritual gifts isn’t hard enough, now you have to tell others.

You partly want to share your newly discovered abilities because you are so relieved that you aren’t crazy.  You also want to tell those close to you because, once you get past the fear, it’s kind of neat.  You finally feel like your life makes sense.  You might even feel like you’ve found your life’s purpose and you want to shout it from the rooftops.  You really just want to share your new journey with someone you trust.  But, then you realize that when you tell others that you can see and feel things that most can’t, they will most likely think you are nuts.

When you step out of the Psychic Closest you’ll have mixed reviews.  If everyone runs to you with open arms and embraces your gifts, you are the rare, lucky one.  Unfortunately, it’s very possible that at least one person in your family and friend group will get mad (for some unknown reason), another might be scared, another will most likely look at you as if they don’t know who you are anymore and another person could possibly turn their back on you.  So, be prepared to feel alone but, know that you aren’t the only one.

You will want to find others like you.  You are just craving people who will believe in you and understand what you’re talking about.  You are looking for acceptance.  You don’t have to go to a spiritualist church to find it.  You don’t have to pay hundreds of dollars to join a class or an online group to get it.  Remember, you have a gift.  Use it!  Follow your intuition.  Go ahead and search online and read books (that’s what I did and continue to do) but, if something or someone doesn’t feel right, it most likely isn’t.  Besides people with spiritual gifts are everywhere.  I’m just one of many, just like you.  Remember, you’ll find the people you’re supposed to find.  Who knows?  You might find a spiritually gifted person living just down the street from you.

Sensitive Conversations: Fear

Along my journey, I’ve learned that I’m definitely not the only one on the path to understanding my spiritual experiences and gifts.  There are lots of people out there struggling with the “what do I do now?” question lurking in their heads.  Most if not all of them are afraid to embrace their gifts let alone believe in them.  I don’t blame them.  Truly taking on your spiritual abilities is scary and there are a lot of unknowns.  After many talks with others like me, I’ve realized that there are many of you who might want to know how I handled the common fears you might be having about exploring your spiritual gifts.  So, I’ve narrowed it down to a few of the top concerns and I’ll tell you how I approached each one myself.

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What if people think I’m crazy?  Do your best not to worry about what others think.  No matter what, there will always be people who have negative things to say.  Try to only be concerned about the people who matter most, family and close friends.  Feel them out before telling them about your gifts by asking them their opinions on famous psychic mediums.  Then tell them one by one, when it feels like the right time.  Remember, your intuition will always lead you in the direction you’re meant to go.

How will my gift affect my family?  The good news is you get to decide how it will affect your family.  You can embrace your gift without going out into the public.  You don’t have to start a reality show or a blog.  Or you could choose to share your gift with the world but, weigh the pros and cons first.  Take the time to consider any negative outcomes that may arise.  Figure out how you’ll manage each one before stepping out into the world.  After much discussion with my husband and after lots of prayer, we agreed that helping people with my gifts was worth the chance of disapproving reactions.

What do I do with my gift?  This is a personal question that only you can answer.  When considering the opportunities, know that you are not limited to just giving readings.  You can tap into your gifts to create art, be a counselor or a life coach.  Think about becoming a writer or maybe even teach others about embracing their spiritual gifts.  Open your mind to the possibilities.

When contemplating “opening the door” to your spiritual gifts, do your research.  Read about other psychics’ experiences, what they suggest and don’t suggest.  Don’t follow any one person blindly.  Find as many people to learn from as possible.  Don’t forget to pray and meditate.  Ask God for guidance and follow your intuition.  Best of luck on your adventure!

I See Dead People

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAWhen I decided to come out of the Psychic Closet I had no idea how to go about doing it.  So, I did what most people do, I Googled it.  I found that most spiritual sensitive people were just as stumped as me when it came to telling others about their gifts.  Although I fully believed in my abilities, I was not comfortable using words like “psychic” and “medium” when describing myself.  Honestly, I’m still getting used to it.  So, how do I tell them?  Well, I prayed for help.

Spirit helped me in ways that often made “coming out” easier for me.  Some people found out about my gifts because I had messages for them from their loved ones who have crossed over.  For example, a woman decided to join a home business I was a part of.  She invited me to her house to help her understand the company website.  When I was there, Spirit was active and definitely had something to say.  I didn’t tell her though because I didn’t know her well enough to know how she would react.  However, Spirit had other plans.  I was given a message for this woman that was repeated to me over the next week.  It go to the point that it was driving me crazy.  So, I called her and told her about my gift and the message I had for her.  Luckily she was very open-minded and believed in people having gifts like mine.  She was so grateful for me being courageous enough to share her message from Spirit.  Soon after coming out to her, I began meeting with her, her family and her friends.  That led to me getting requests from people I didn’t know.  That is when I knew it was time to tell my family and friends who were not aware of me being a Spiritual Sensitive.  However, I still wasn’t sure how to tell them.  So, I listened to Spirit and told people when it felt right.

Here’s a great example of knowing when it was right:  I have an amazing, long-time, childhood friend that I had to tell over the phone because she lives overseas.  Somehow, one of our phone calls went into the direction that allowed me to work in Spirit.  That led to me “coming out” to her.  She is skeptical and I knew that it would affect our conversation.  However, she is totally supportive of my gift and has only shown me love and kindness.

My husband and I decided together when to tell family members that didn’t know.  We knew that some of them do not believe in “this stuff” but, out of respect we felt we should tell them ourselves before they found out from others.  We weren’t surprised when some doubted everything we said and even suggested medical attention.  I told them “You do not need to believe in me or even support me.  That’s not why we’re telling you.  We wanted to tell you ourselves because we didn’t want you to hear about it from someone else.”  They shrugged their shoulders and moved on with the evening and never mentioned it again.  This is completely fine.  I never want to shake anyone’s faith or try to convince people to believe in me.  Either you do, or you don’t and I’m fine with both as long as you show me the same respect I show you.

So, when you decide to come out of the Psychic Closet, take your time and pray.  Ask God for help.  Expect that some people will think you are nuts, some will support you, some will fear you and some will reject you.  But, as long as you are strong in your faith and you believe in yourself, you’ll be fine.

Feeling Blessed

I was recently asked if I ever feel blessed to have my gift.  If I was asked that same question a few years ago, I would have immediately said “NO!”  I felt cursed most of my life seeing and hearing things that I couldn’t explain.  When I shared my experiences with others, they thought I was crazy.  So, I began to see myself as crazy too.  However, now, I see my sensitivity to Spirit as a blessing in so many ways.  First, I believe it’s my gift from God, no matter what others say.  Second, I have met so many wonderful people thanks to my ability and gained so many great friendships too.  Third, I’ve received overwhelming LOVE since I’ve embraced my spiritual connections.  Let me explain…

I am amazed that God has chosen to give me to receive the ability to connect with spirits.  ME?  WHAT!?!  I know, right?  I’m just a girl from Hawaii who is living out her dream of marrying the love of her life and raising our awesome kids.  Now that I’ve shared my gift, some call me “The Stay-at-Homeblessed Medium” and others call me “The Psychic Housewife”.  Hahaha!  Crazy, right?  I’m still wrapping my brain around it all.  God gives us each a gift to share with others.  Yes, you too have a God-given gift.  No, my gift isn’t an amazing singing voice (don’t ask me to prove it, you’ll regret it).  My gift definitely is not genius (which is obvious each time I try to help my kids with their homework).  However, God did gift me with the ability to communicate with spiritual beings.  I definitely feel blessed, never worthy but, always blessed.   

Second, my spiritual gift has helped me make some awesome connections and meet wonderful people.  Sure, some people are drawn to me just because of my gift.  But, I’ve made some great friends thanks to my abilities.  I’ve been able to find likeminded people who share in my beliefs and some even have similar experiences.  There’s nothing better than finding your tribe.  Many of my new friendships will last a lifetime.

Third, the love I get and feel because of my gift is overwhelming at times but, in a good way.  It is love after all.  When I found God and later accepted this unbelievable gift from Him, the love I felt and continue to feel from Him, is unconditional and endless.  God has this love for all of us.  We just have to find our way to Him.  That love is something I hope everyone will find one day.  But it’s not just God’s love that I’m honored to experience but, it’s also the love I witness when I connect people with their departed loved ones.  I am grateful to share in the experience of seeing love cross over from the spiritual world to the physical.  I’ve seen, first hand, that love never dies.  How awesome is that!  Who wouldn’t feel blessed?

Life is all about perception.  My abilities haven’t changed but, how I view them has.  Keeping my gift hidden just enforced that “crazy” feeling.  Sharing my gift has brought me so much happiness.  Embrace your God-given gifts and share them, as we are meant to and you too will feel blessed.